Friday, 17 June 2016


Three things:

1.) You'll not appreciate this album until you listen to it with a sound earpiece or a deck with good woofer.

2.) You need to watch the movie to understand the songs and get the full concept of the album.

3.) Don't listen to the album in shuffle mode. Follow the songs track by track and flow with the story.

Lemonade in its entirety is a master piece. I love the mix of genres in the album. R&B, Pop, Trap, Reggae, there’s even a country song! The versatility is commendable.

Her first three albums were about hit singles while her last three has been about the direction of each album as a work of art with a clear message being told in every song.

When she released music videos for all the songs on B’day I knew she was a visual person. She needed to show people exactly what she was trying to say in her songs, she needed them to not only hear but also see the story. Dropping all videos at once when Beyonce was released didn't give the full impact I felt she was going for. There was a disconnect somewhere.

Finally, she got it right with the lemonade movie. The voice over, the flow of the songs and segments puts the viewer/listener in the story.

Lemonade is pure truth. She spoke from a place of hurt and pain which she artistically turned it into something beautiful.

I'm not going to argue if it's about Jay-Z or not. Heck, inspiration could be from her parent’s broken marriage. Art doesn't necessarily need to be a reflection of the artist's personal life.
If indeed it's was her personal life, the lyrics on daddy lessons where she sings about her dad before he died makes you question it all. Once thing we all know for sure is, her dad isn't dead.

Why don't we forget who inspired the album or who Becky with good hair is and just enjoy this lovely glass of lemonade?

My favourite song on the album is All night. Funny, Bey recently said it was also her favourite track on the album at her formation tour.

The album has a Metacritic score of 92. One of the highest ever for a female album. It is universally acclaimed and the best reviewed album of 2016 so far. Even Rolling stone had to bow down and gave the album 5 stars, something they rarely do.

I’m going to break down the album based on the Lemonade movie.This shall encompass excerpts of the various segments of the movie which features poetry by Warsan Shire, a Somali-British poet, as well as the songs.

Where do you go when you go quiet?

You remind me of my father, a magician... able to exist in two places at once. In the tradition of men in my blood, you come home at 3 a.m. and lie to me.

What are you hiding?

Track 1 - Pray you catch me
This is a perfect album opening track. The solemn quietness of the song leaves you pondering and wondering what the album would be about.
Best lines:
Nothing else ever seems to hurt like the smile on your face
When it’s only in my memory, it don’t hit me quite the same
What are you doing my love?

…but still inside me, coiled deep, was the need to know
Are you cheating on me?

Track 2 – Hold on
This song totally got me at first listen. The song is of reggae genre.
The visuals of the song made it even more enjoyable. The way she opens the door and then the water rushes out onto the stairs #badass.

Best lines:
How did it come down to this? Scrolling through your call list
I don’t wanna lose my pride, but I’mma fuck me up a bitch

Why can't you see me? Why can't you see me? Why can't you see me? Everyone else can.

Track 3 – Don’t hurt yourself
Impressive rock influenced track. The diversity of the genres in the album is one thing that makes it a stand out album.

If he doesn’t step up she’ll leave him ass on the floor! Unapologetically vulgar and full of swear words! You can feel her anger and rage on this track.
Best lines:
Uh, this is your final warning
You know I give you life
If you try this shit again
You gonna lose your wife
(in the visuals she takes her ring off and throws it at the camera, lights out!)

Ashes to ashes, dust to side chicks.

Track 4 – Sorry
From the anger and rage you feel when you discover they’ve been doing you wrong, you cross over to the stage when you are done with them. You couldn’t care less if the humping a goat. You just done and you aren’t sorry about it. To hell with them and their b.s

Best lines:
Looking at my watch he should’ve been home
Today I regret the night I put that ring on
He always got them fucking excuses
I pray to the Lord you reveal what his truth is
He better call Becky with the good hair

Every fear ... every nightmare ... anyone has ever had.

Track 5 – 6 inch
This is a pop song that talks about female empowerment. She is known for always having a female empowerment song in every album. This is the point where she’s her own boss, even without her man she can still shut down shii and go about her business.

Mother dearest, let me inherit the earth. Teach me how to make him beg. Let me make up for the years he made you wait. Did he bend your reflection? Did he make you forget your own name? Did he convince you he was a god? Did you get on your knees daily? Do his eyes close like doors? Are you a slave to the back of his head?
Am I talking about your husband or your father?

Track 6 – Daddy Lessons
I never thought Beyonce would be able to nail a country music song so effortlessly! She totally crossed over on this on.

We all know about her dad’s infidelity drama. That’s what the song references majorly. This is about her dad warning her about men like him who go about breaking girl’s heart.

I ask him to look me in the eye when I come home.
Why do you deny yourself heaven?
Why do you consider yourself undeserving?
Why are you afraid of love?
You think it's not possible for someone like you.
But you are the love of my life.

Track 7 – Love Drought
This song was a major bore on first listen. The lyrics of the song saved it for me. When I got the words clearly I felt the deep message and I connected with the song.
This is the point where she begins to question things. Is it worth throwing away all they’ve built? She has let out all the rage and anger and is now considering saving their relationship.

She sings -
Ten times out of nine, I know you are lying
But nine times outta ten I know you’re trying
So I’m trying to be fair
And you’re trying to be there and to care
And you’re caught up in your permanent emotions

Best lines:
I always paid attention, been devoted
Tell me, what did I do wrong?
Oh, already asked that, my bad
But you my lifeline, think you tryna kill me?

If we're gonna heal, let it be glorious.

Track 8 – Sandcastles
This is the point at which she forgave. The song is a short ballad filled with raw feeling and honestly. Watching the visuals, you’d be tempted to conclude Jay Z actually shitted. The way he looked guilty, broken and vulnerable in the video.
Still, I feel the song was too real and beautiful to be that.
Best lines:
And your heart is broken ‘cause I walked away
Show me your scars and I won’t walk away
And I know I promised that I couldn’t stay
But every promise don’t work out that way

When your back gets against the wall and your wall against your back, who you call? Hey! Who you call? Who you call? You gotta call Him. You gotta call Jesus. You gotta call Him. You gotta call Him 'cause you ain't got another hope.

Track 9 – Forward
This is more or less a transition interlude that had James Blake taking most of the song with Bey merging with him at the end.
This is the point they both decide to win the battle and forge ahead with rebuilding their relationship.
Best lines:
Go back to your sleep in your favorite spot
Just next to me…


Track 10 – Freedom
The drums at the intro of this song is everything. You know it’s going to be a banger once you hear the intro. Having Kendrick Lamar on this song was a wise thought.
Best lines:
I’ma keep running
Cause a winner don’t quit on themselves

I had my ups and downs, but I always find the inner strength to pull myself up. I was served lemons, but I made lemonade.

Track 11 – All Night
The opening verse of this song tells it all. What the song is about – Forgiveness. This is the highlight of the album, a beautiful climax and end of a love story which had gone through doubt, pain, war and now forgiveness.
Opening verse –

Found the truth beneath your lies
And true love never has to hide
I’ll trade your broken wings for mine
I’ve seen your scars and kissed your crime

Someone tweeted - when you start listening to lemonade and by Don’t hurt yourself you’ve already gone crazy and torn up all your hubby’s things only to reach All Night and realize the album was actually about forgiveness.

Best lines:
Nothing real can be threatened
True love breathes salvation back into me
With every tear came redemption
And my torturer became a remedy
How I missed you, my love

Track 12 – Formation

A great trap song in its own right with hit beats and catch phrases. But then this is one song I’ll say doesn’t fit into the album.  The album would have ended at All night, that’s when the love story ended.
The visuals of the song is pure art. Each scene was very impressive and that lil guy bursting those hot dance moves that finally got the police men to surrender.
Best lines:
You know you that bitch when you cause all this conversation

Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper

Thursday, 9 June 2016


DISCLAIMER: I tried to make this post short, but the words just kept pouring out. I eventually broke it down into two parts. But then, it was still lengthy. I tried, I swear I tried to shorten it/further break it into parts but sometimes, things just fit perfectly well that if a piece is taken out, it loses its steam, so please bear with me.

It' been about a month or less after the break up (or me walking away). I don't feel hurt. Probably felt pissed once or twice about my wasted effort and time but nothing major - no hurt, heartbreak or that sort of shii.

When a major change happens in life, like in my case - losing someone that was a major part of my day and thoughts, one has to adjust and find a way to live with the change. Routines definitely would have to change. How I spent my Sunday afternoons became a major concern.  It took me a while to shake off the odd feeling of spending Sundays alone again.

Mostly, I’ll say I have been having withdrawal symptoms. I deactivated my instagram and facebook accounts. Chatting became a bore and conversations were forced online. I just had to respond to some people to be polite. I guess they may have felt my disconnect while chatting with them. At work I've cut down on people I flow with.

No, I’m not sad or anything. I feel like shutting people out and have some quality me time, be on my own for a while. Process things on my own terms in a healthy way instead of taking the easiest route of a rebound or random flings inorder to ignore the emptiness ‘freedom’ that comes with a break up.

For a while, Saturdays were the hardest. Being an indoor person, I like spending my Saturdays at home reading a novel, listening to music or watching movies/series on my laptop. But just being home became so painful and depressing. Worst part was my close friends who get me are far away in other states. I’ve just been unlucky to make really cool friends in Benin. (Yea, I know, ‘cus I lock myself indoors).

I needed physical company to help me deal with my withdrawal symptoms, cyber space conversations wasn’t going to help. So I had to force myself to hang out at the movies with a friend, though we really don’t share a lot in common or have similar school of thought but it was quite helpful especially as he took me to Uniben. He introduced me to his really cool friend. She made for good conversation and it felt really good, being out there having a decent conversation again with someone new.

At a point we alienated my friend from the conversation when we started talking about music. He got tired of us, but common, its music and that’s my passion! She spoke about a new kind of music that’s the ish now - EDM (electronic dance music). I have tried listening to such songs but it just doesn’t appeal to me. I like real music, live bands, and acoustic covers. I want to hear the clear strings, the instruments contrasting against deep lyrics that have meaning, not some electronic formulated up-tempo beats. I can’t relate to EDM.

I felt alive when I got home and chatted her up on whatsapp hoping to continue our conversation and forge a new friendship. But she wasn’t online at the time. The euphoria gradually wore out and I slowly started withdrawing. I’m that kinda lazy guy who needs encouraging. I need to be dragged out of my dark corner. I may really like you and be into you but sometimes I get so lazy that I need you to drag me out but once I’m comfortable with you and we are on, I’m going to be so all over you. I wish she’ll figure me out and drag me out but I fear she isn’t the type to do so. She seems more like the ‘a guy ought to chase after me type’ (I sincerely hope I’m wrong).

Last weekend after training at work, I decided to chill with two of my colleagues, actually we went to see the new X-men movie. It was refreshing hanging with them, one of them I already knew, and the other I was meeting for the first time. It helped again, not being alone with myself but having random conversation and actually enjoying the conversations even though it was mostly surface stuff and not deep ish I do normally have with my close friends. But the physical company helped, well I knew I would probably not be hanging out with the new colleague in a long time to come but I enjoyed the ease it brought that moment.

Random conversations, living the moment and moving on from it waiting for the next, hoping the withdrawal phase passes.

I have been having a strong desire to shave my hair for a while now, but I can’t because the Oba died. It’s tradition for males in my city to shave their heads in honour of the dead Oba. If I do it now, I won’t hear the last of it at work. I choose my peace of mind.

I keep telling myself this withdrawal ish has nothing to do with my break up but I know it’s in a way an off shoot of it. I’m adjusting and trying to get back to who I was before I got involved. Though I’m still left wondering how is it that I don't feel hurt? Or heartbroken? I'm beginning to question if I was truly in love. I know I cared deeply and to a large extent felt I was in love. I remember several times when we were still together, I’d try to imagine how it would be if we broke up. To be honest I never saw myself feeling pained or broken.

Maybe I wasn't deep into it as I thought but I know I wanted us to work and I really loved what we had. My feelings obviously weren't that deep yet, probably because of my doubts, I subconsciously didn't allow myself get too involved. I mean, it's almost automatic, your response to someone who doesn't make you a priority.

Aside that, I remember when we first met last year August and had a brief fling. Then I know I felt that crazy freaky feeling but this February when we decided to date, that initial feeling was gone. Probably that's why we were stable initially. It was smooth, easy, no long chats, flaming hormones going wild et al. We had passed that initially phase of the rush of emotions you feel when you meet someone new that you are really attracted to. By then we knew each other to an extent with the full knowledge of each other's shortcomings. Our fling last year revealed a lot about our individual personalities. My short temper was revealed along with my penchant for asking direct questions.

I went in hoping things would be better since we knew what ruined us in August, that this time around we would be able to sort those things out and it would all work out fine. Mostly I hoped the seemingly uninterested attitude would die. That’s mostly what put me off last year. Someone would like you but still be dragging fit doing like they are forcing them. That stopped when we started dating, but apparently metamorphosed into something worse.
After the break up post, of course my friends chatted me up to know what's up and if we had worked it out...Mazino was like I should have waited and talked and had several conversations on it. That people change and all.

The sad truth is people rarely change. If they change it’s because they grew or they actually decided on their own to change or they got bored and needed something different or nature just took its course. No one can really fix anyone. We fix ourselves or life fixes us.

The thing about being the one trying to fix others and make things work is you'll get burned out. I have been there before, the one always trying to fix things. You will talk today, they would listen and change for a week. Next week they are back to their old self, you get hurt and then have the conversation again and they change for a week, then relapse. It’s an unending torturous cycle.

Truth is, if you want to be a fixer be ready to walk in cycles and bear the pain that comes with it. Eventually you'll realize they would never change, by then you have been hurt so much, bruised over and disappointed a thousand times.

Then you decide you are done and can take it no more, so you walk away. Your absence hits them and then they realize their wrong, but you are far too gone and can't let them back in. So they go and meet someone else and it works out fine with the new person because life has taught them through losing you that they really need to change.

Your walking away has made them better persons and all your talks still rings in their head and they actually become better persons but they are with another person. So all your pain, and all the bullshit you had to endure were all to make them better persons for another person. Meanwhile you are still single (or not, but most times they move on faster than you, after all you are the one who’s energy got drenched), wondering how come that person who put you through so much is doing ok in their new relationship.

Or you could take the lazy way out. You stop trying to change them and just endure their bullshit and wallow in the pain and unhappiness because you chose to stay. Or you decide to live in denial and make excuses for them. Biko who are you fooling?
In my opinion, you can't fix anyone. It takes the grace of God for people to actually decide to change, but one thing is for sure, they would have to be the ones to consciously decide to change and fix themselves. You can't fix anyone, don't kid yourself. God is God and you are not him.

No one is perfect, know what you can tolerate and live with. If you can't deal, please walk away for your own sanity. Don't drain your energy trying to fix another human. It's not worth it. But if you are already married then that's another story entirely...This advice is strictly for the unmarried. That's why we shouldn't rush into marriage. People say you can never know someone completely, that even when you get married you'll see character you never saw while dating. Well, I’m not married so I wouldn't know. But I do know we always see the signs in the beginning but we ignore it, hoping for the best.

Do I feel lonely? Yes I do but not because my heart yearns for love. I just want good company. Someone with same taste in music, cool headed, someone that writes and reads too and has access to series and good movies also. I mostly need someone that'll challenge me to write more and achieve things I have in mind. And mostly, someone who is present. I don't have energy for cyber space kinda thing. Lately, chatting has become a major bore to me. Like it saps my energy and my fingers have become so lazy.

Two things:
1. I need to delete a lot of pictures from my phone and laptop.

2. I need to sort out my music playlist on my phone once and for all (when I look at the scattered playlist, I feel clumsy like my life is in disarray).

I wish I had a good laptop with sound battery and a very good ear piece. I'll drive to an eatery, order junks and get it all done. My laptop battery is nothing to write home about and the laptop adaptor has magically refused to work on any other socket aside the one in my room. How that's possible, I really can't explain. I took it to the office it didn’t work, took it to another branch, same thing. After suffering the burden of travelling with it to Lagos, it didn't work. Yet it works and is even still working plugged to the socket in my room. *sigh

Talking of my room, I was toying with the idea of getting a place of my own in town. I almost did but then, the laziness of moving as well as the fact I’m really comfortable in my Dad's compound. The free house, no rent to pay, no going to the market to get food stuff, no paying of light bills, plus I recently did some furnishing in my apartment. I stay in the two bed room flat behind. Got everything I need and rarely get visitors. Just me, my peace and quiet. So why move? Then again I’m still not sure about certain things career wise neither am I rather to walk down the aisle in the nearest future.

It’s almost three years now that I’ve been working and I still feel clueless about my career path. It bothers me at times, but mostly I just shake-off the thought. I'm working on a few things which are beyond my control, why kill myself with over thinking?

I'll just chill till they materialize then I'll make a decision. I’m thankful I have something going on even though I’m not so sure I really want to continue in this career path. Don't get me wrong, I love my job. Sometimes it's fun and really exciting other times it can be really killing and stressful, sometimes I just feel bored, then a new transaction comes and I feel alive, excited again bla bla bla…

But basically, I still don't feel like I’m all set, like I’m on a well-defined path, you get? Sort of as if my life hasn't started. But this is life, no rush ba?

Well, what do I know? ...I am but just a kid